Chiang Mai Gay Guide

Gay pride parade
Gay pride parade

Thailand is a wonderful destination for the gay traveller, and Chiang Mai is one of the most popular places in the country to visit or even settle. The gay scene is well established here, with a large community who enjoy frequent entertainment and plenty of male company from local Thai boys.

The Chiang Mai gay crowd blends in effortlessly since Thais are so accepting and unprejudiced about gender choices; a major reason why the ladyboys are so numerous. Thai boys also make good gay companions owing to their good looks and soft character. Whether you come alone or as a couple, Chiang Mai will be a memorable experience. There is also a more discreet lesbian scene (even if Thailand tends to attract men), with a few places and networks to meet an increasing group of gay or bi women.

Many have found their special partner here, while others prefer to simply have a bit of fun! The Chiang Mai gay culture is centred on bars, bistros, private massage houses, and even go-go clubs; but many also prefer a quieter life.

The city itself is relaxing and affordable, moving at a lazy place. Shopping, dining, socialising among the expat community, dressing up for frequent parties and immersing oneself in the contemporary culture of the city are all popular activities among the Chiang Mai gay community.

The best online place to meet Thai Gay for free is on Gay Friend Finder, where there are more than 10,000 registered Thai Gay members.

Meeting Thai boys

For the first time visitor looking to meet boys, there are a number of bars, clubs and saunas spread out throughout the city (see listings below). Additionally, there are many gay-friendly hotels and guesthouses.

Thai culture does not place a premium on youth in the way that Western societies do, and older men can still be quite desirable in Thailand. Chiang Mai is also a popular place to retire, for straights and gays. Thai boys are gorgeous, with toned bodies, lovely features and a soft nature. Everyone is friendly here, and you rarely meet outwardly vocal homophobic people.

Gay bars and restaurants

Soho Bar and Guesthouse: Gay-friendly bar with a relaxed, classy atmosphere and a garden bar and trendy interior. Conveniently located near Kad Suan Kaew mall. 20/3 Huay Kaew Rd., Suthep.  Tel: (053) 404 175, Mobile: (082) 695 9930, Email.

Lotus Garden BarLocated adjacent to the Lotus Hotel is this open-air bamboo hut bar filled with friendly people. Open: 19:00 until late. The Lotus Hotel, 2/25 Viangbua Rd., Chang Puak. Tel: (053) 215 376.

Long Yang ClubLYC Chiang Mai is a Social Club promoting friendship between Asian and Western Gay men and lesbians. It holds regular social events, including dining out, sports, charitable activities and entertainment, details of which are on their webpage.

Others gay hangouts

Circle Pub: Another choice for company for the evening. Open: 20:00-01:00, 161/7-8 Soi Arawan, Changpueak Rd., Sriphum. Tel: (053) 214 996.

New My Way: Sometimes busy and out of town a bit. Open 20:00-01:00, 3/5-6 Hatsade Sewee Rd., Soi 3, Chang Puak. Tel: (053) 404 361.

Adam’s Apple ClubOpen: 21:00-01:00. 1/21-22 Viengbua Rd., Changpuak. Tel: (053) 220 381.

Can you bring girls back to your hotel?
Some hotels don’t mind you bringing bar girls back to your room as long as you are discreet, while others forbid it or will try to charge you extra. To save you the embarrassment, we’ve enquired with all of them and listed those that are suitable for bachelors: see the list, rates and booking here.

Gay massage and spas

House of Male: A large, popular place to meet single people, boasting a sauna, gym with swimming pool, bar, and friendly service. Open: 12:00-Midnight, 19 Sirimankalajarn Rd., Soi 3, Suthep. Tel: (053) 894 133, 217 765.

Classic House MassageCentrally located off Thapae gate and decorated in the traditional Lanna style, with body scrubs, aromatherapy, facial and 4-hands massage. Open: 12:00-Midnight, 27/2 Thapae Rd., Soi 4. Tel: (053) 904 582, Email.

His Club: Situated in the Chiang Mai land area, His Club touts ‘More than 20 male therapists to choose from’ and offers various treatments. Also has a spa and sauna. 21/43 Soi Moo Baan Unn Reun, Chang Klan Rd., Tel: (053) 204 148.

2 Brothers Massage80/7 Loi Kroh Rd. Soi 3A, Chang Klan, Tel: (053) 206 403, Email.

Cheeva SpaServing the gay community for six years, Cheeva Spa continues to offer the best possible massages and beauty treatments in Chiang Mai. Gay and lesbian visitors from around the world return year after year for the wonderful service that Khun Parisa and her staff provide. Open: 10:00-21:30 (Daily), 4/2 Hussadhisewee Rd., Sriphum. Tel: (053) 405 129, Email.

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Gay guesthouses

Tokyo Vander HotelChiang Mai’s largest gay accommodation is exclusively gay and has five floors of revamped rooms, along with a host of facilities. They include a pool, restaurants, massage/spa, and cabaret bar in the basement; popular among locals as a meeting place…more details and booking

Santitham Guest HouseA nicely appointed, upmarket guesthouse and restaurant located northwest of the moat in a quiet suburb, yet within walking distance of Kad Suan Kaew mall…more details and booking

Soho Guest HouseA popular gay venue that also has accommodation in a relaxed and friendly environment, if you don’t mind a lively atmosphere. It’s conveniently close to Kad Suan Kaew mall, near the old town, though on a busy road…more details and booking

Seven Suns ResidencePopular, lively place…more details and booking

Lotus HotelGay-owned and run and very popular with visiting gay tourists…more details and booking

Baan Sammi – PlumeriaGay homestay accommodation near Doi Saket…more details and booking

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